John Mordechai Gottman Książki

Decydując się na małżeństwo, zakładamy, że będzie to długa i satysfakcjonująca relacja, jednak niektóre związki kończą się rozstaniem. Co sprawia, że niektóre małżeństwa się rozpadają, a inne trwają? Jak radzić sobie z kryzysami i kiedy zwrócić się do specjalisty? John M. Gottman, terapeuta rodzinny, na podstawie badań opracował siedem zasad, które pomagają zbudować trwały związek. Wspólnie z Nan Silver autorzy przedstawiają najczęstsze przyczyny rozwodów oraz sposoby reagowania na trudności. Pielęgnowanie wzajemnego szacunku, wspólne rozwiązywanie problemów i umiejętność prowadzenia konstruktywnej rozmowy pozwalają przezwyciężać kryzysy i minimalizować ryzyko rozwodu, a także umacniają relację. Zawarte w książce ćwiczenia pobudzą zainteresowanie partnerem, uwrażliwią na jego potrzeby i odnowią uczucia. To poradnik dla osób pragnących wydobyć związek na wyższy poziom. Dowiesz się, jak zapobiec rozpadowi małżeństwa, zrozumiesz trudności w relacji oraz nauczysz się dbać o siebie i partnera, tworząc solidny fundament. Szczęśliwi małżonkowie nie są zazwyczaj mądrzejsi czy bogatsi, ale potrafią zrównoważyć negatywne myśli i emocje. To niezwykle praktyczny przewodnik dla emocjonalnie inteligentnych małżeństw.

Książka koncentruje się na praktycznych strategiach i oferuje naukowo potwierdzone narzędzia, które pomagają parom przywrócić uczucia i romantyzm w małżeństwie. Autorzy, jako psychologowie małżeńscy, podkreślają znaczenie poprawy komunikacji w celu przezwyciężenia lat emocjonalnego dystansu. Każda lekcja ma na celu wzmocnienie więzi między partnerami oraz umożliwienie im ponownego nawiązania kontaktu i umocnienia relacji.

Conflict is the number one reason that couples seek help and resources. Fight Right will teach you how to avoid the five critical mistakes that couples often make during conflict, and instead, teach you how to 'fight right' and use conflict as an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love. Using decades of research, compelling case studies and a new international study, Dr Gottman and Dr Schwartz Gottman prove that even couples who are truly struggling in conflict and have really lost their way are able to recover and find their way back to each other. For those couples in crisis, or those who want to change their relationship dynamic, Fight Right is the go-to guide to understanding how to fight better, offering urgent and perennial lessons for healthy conflict.

Grounded in decades of research involving over three thousand couples, the book emphasizes that strong relationships are built on small, everyday interactions. It presents a seven-day action plan designed to enhance connection and communication by focusing on elements such as body language, conversation styles, and physiological responses. This practical guide aims to provide actionable insights to help couples deepen their bond and improve their emotional well-being.

What really makes a relationship work? How can we stay interested in our partner for ever? How can we be happier in our marriage? Doctors John and Julie Gottman have spent over three decades studying the habits of 3000 couples. Within 10 minutes of meeting a couple, they can predict who will stay happily together or who will split up, with 94% accuracy. Based on their findings, they have now created an easy series of eight dates - spanning commitment; trust; conflict; intimacy; sex; fun; work; money; and family values - that will lead to a happier, lasting love life. Eight Dates draws on rigorous scientific and psychological research about how we fall in love using case studies of real-life couples whose relationships have improved after committing time to each other and following the dates. Full of innovative exercises and conversation starters to explore ways to deepen each aspect of the relationship, Eight Dates is an essential resource that makes a relationship fulfilling.

From a leading couple therapist duo comes a practical guide to effective couples therapy. This book offers an inside look at their extensive experience in the field, distilled into ten core principles of successful couples work. Each principle is supported by clinical case studies and personal anecdotes, providing a rich context for understanding the complexities of relationships. Key topics include how to address the elusive nature of "the relationship," empathizing with clients who have conflicting viewpoints, and the implications of separation on perceived success. The authors explore the unique challenges of working with relationships compared to individual clients, including what to prioritize, the right questions to ask, and how to navigate differing client responses. Additionally, they discuss managing the emotional and personal histories that arise during therapy sessions and emphasize the importance of research-based practices. This insightful guide is essential for anyone involved in couples therapy, offering valuable strategies and guidance for navigating the intricacies of relationship dynamics.

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today offers creative insight on building trust and avoiding betrayal, helping readers to decode the mysteries of healthy love and relationships"--

National awareness of battering has grown, yet persistent myths about abusive relationships remain, including the misconception that all batterers are the same. After a decade of research involving over 200 couples, the authors reveal that batterers fall into two distinct categories: "Pit Bulls" and "Cobras." Pit Bulls are emotionally volatile, driven by deep insecurity and unhealthy dependence on their partners. In contrast, Cobras are calculated and methodical in their abuse, often stemming from their own experiences of physical or sexual abuse in childhood, viewing violence as an inevitable aspect of life. Identifying the type of batterer is crucial for assessing the potential for salvaging an abusive relationship, as Pit Bulls may respond to therapy, while situations involving Cobras are often beyond repair. Through the narratives of several couples, the authors examine the dynamics of abusive relationships and challenge common myths. They emphasize the inherent risks involved and provide insights on how women in their study prepared to leave abusive situations, where to seek help, and strategies for ensuring their safety.

Grounded in two decades of research, this book offers practical tools for evaluating and enhancing long-term relationships. Readers will discover their marital strengths and weaknesses, along with actionable strategies to improve their partnership. The author highlights common detrimental patterns that can lead to divorce, providing insights to help couples avoid these pitfalls. With a focus on proven methods, the book serves as a comprehensive guide for couples seeking to strengthen their bond and ensure lasting happiness.

Bringing an evidence base to classic writings that opened psychotherapy up to more than one person at a time-the couple.

Discusses a five-step program for parents to use when teaching their children to acknowledge and master their emotions.

A great "philosopher" once said, "Trying to understand women is like trying to smell the color 9." But the fact is, men can understand women to their great benefit. All they need is the right teacher. And arguably there is no better teacher than John Gottman, PhD, a world-renowned relationships researcher and author of the bestselling 7 principles of Making Marriage Work. His new book, written with wife Julie Gottman, a clinical psychologist, and Doug Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, is based on 40 years of scientific study, much of it gleaned from the Gottman's popular couple's workshops and the "love lab" at the University of Washington. It's written primarily for men because new research suggests that it is the man in a relationship who wields the most influence to make it great or screw it up beyond repair. The Man's Guide to Women offers the science-based answers to the question: What do women really want in a man? The book explains the hallmarks of manhood that most women find attractive, and helps men hone those skills to be the man she desires.

Couples facing the transition to parenthood can benefit from the insights of two relationship experts who provide essential knowledge and skills. The book offers practical advice and real-life examples aimed at preventing relationship strain, maintaining a healthy sex life, preserving emotional intimacy, and preventing postpartum depression. It emphasizes creating a nurturing environment for both partners and their new child, ensuring a smoother adjustment to parenthood.

Principia Amoris introduces Love Equations, a powerful tool that can prevent relationship distress and heal ailing relationships, and treats readers to a history of the people and events that shape our current understanding of love and relationships.

Focusing on major time-series techniques, this book covers both time-domain and frequency-domain methods comprehensively. It serves as an essential resource for understanding the analysis and modeling of time-dependent data, making it suitable for students and professionals alike. The content is designed to provide a solid foundation in the principles and applications of time-series analysis, ensuring readers can effectively interpret and manipulate data trends over time.

The Classic Edition of this landmark text delves into the groundbreaking research on the predictors of divorce, originally presented by Dr. John Gottman. Enhanced by a new preface from the Gottman Institute's Clinical and Research Directors, the book contextualizes Gottman's findings for contemporary readers, offering insights into relationship dynamics and the factors that contribute to marital stability or dissolution.

Although this book was written to be used primarily by couples, it has become a bestselling text for college counseling courses. The skills and techniques introduced are based on the way distressed and nondistressed couples differ when solving problems. Each chapter includes practice exercises to help couples master the problem-solving techniques presented. Appendices contain problem inventories for husband and wife, a knowledge assessment self-test, and a trouble-shooting guide.